I’m now on Day 11 of the You Are Enough 30 Day Blogging Challenge, and man, I’m realizing that some topics are much easier to write about than others. Some of them just come to me, and others take a lot of thought and soul searching. Some honestly make me a little bit uncomfortable, but I also believe that discomfort is strengthening me as a writer. At least, I hope it is. Growth starts the second you get out of your comfort zone, right? With that being said, this next topic is something that I haven’t really given too much thought about, so I will do my best to discuss it through my words:
Day 11: In Chapter Eight, I share all the reasons why I think I’m still single, the good…the bad…the ugly. Talk about all the reasons why you think you’re still single. Don’t be afraid to be really real and raw and honest. If you’re not still single, talk about a time when you were single and lonely and afraid that love would never arrive.
So, I’m officially in my late twenties, all of my closest friends are getting engaged or married, and I’m still single. To be completely honest, I really like it that way. I have no problem telling people that I’m single by choice because I wasn’t single for a long time. I gave all of my time and energy to someone, and it didn’t work out. I came so close to settling for a life that I knew deep down I didn’t want, and I now refuse to settle for anything less than I deserve.
I’ve never been the type of girl that felt the need to have a boyfriend. I know my self-worth won’t be determined by a guy and my happiness won’t be found solely in a relationship. I don’t look at my singleness as a bad thing at all, and I can’t stand the fact that there’s such a stigma against it. I’m constantly getting told that my “biological click is ticking,” and my response is always “I can put my energy into finding a cure for cancer or I can put my energy into finding a husband. Which one do you think I’m going to choose?” At this current point in my life, I am solely focused on my career and just bettering myself as a person overall. I spent the majority of my life living it on other people’s terms and putting other people’s needs before my own. I got so tired of doing that, and now, I’m finally putting myself first. Maybe that makes me selfish, but I’m not ready to give that up just yet. I also really enjoy being single. I absolutely love the freedom of it, and I know that I’m not anywhere near being ready to settle down or date someone seriously. Maybe I’ll be ready for that in a few years, but right now, I’m totally taking advantage of being alone. It’s teaching me so much about myself, and it’s pretty empowering. I think it’s so incredibly important to be comfortable with being alone and just learning how to genuinely enjoy your own company. Our relationship with ourselves is absolutely the most important one we need to nourish in our lives because it’s the foundation upon which we’ll build everything else.
So, suffice it to say that I’m too busy falling in love with myself right now to be falling in love with my future husband. I have faith that that next chapter of my life will come to me exactly when it’s supposed to. In the meantime, I’m embracing my singleness and living my life to the fullest.